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Gasoline on «The fire of shame»

July 23, 2010

There is a lot of ways to use or abuse power. Many ways to surpress people. Rape doesn´t only rob the victim of something intimate. Rape switches selfrespect with bottomless shame.

Maybe it is unusual for a man to write about rape. Some might think its almost pathetic. I know that I am in danger of being labeled as a «softie» by writing about this. It doesnt matter. I am a man. I have a fiancé, a daughter, female friends and relatives. I know several rape victims . Some of them close to me. So do you. Rape touches us all.

Every time a rape is reported to the police there is nine rapes that doesn´t get reported. This numbers is from Norway . Between seven and 14 percents of the rapes is reported to the police.

Some years ago I had a job that took me across Eurpe. When I introduced myself and told them where I lived they all nodded and commented on Norways policy for gender equality. They knew absolutely nothing about fjords and mountains and the ridicilous brown cheese we desperately try to showe down every tourists throath. Norway is characterised for womens rights by many europeans . Still most rapes is not reported in this country.

Rape is as old as the human history. Its known from ancient greek and roman mythology. There  is also stories about rape from the bible.

The penis has been a very effective weapon in war. Rape of women and children is a well. A known strategy to paralyze the civil population. Rape of the enemies women and children is well-known from most wars. More systematicly known from Kosovo, Bosnia , Sudan and Burma. The aim is to make the civil population afraid and shamefull.

Rape is usually not a sexual deviation. Its a violent motivated crime, that is about power and the urge to degrade and harm the victims. Its an expression of surpression and is traditionally about mens whishes to surpress women. Some countries like Nigeria even punishes the victim of rape by flogging or stoning, The total surpression.

But why doesnt more women in a western european country like Norway report rape? In a country where women seems to be equal to men should this be obvious. Some of the rapes happens between friends and lovers and is not that easy to report due to personal bonds. Others is abut shame, surpression and centuries living in a culture that has pushed women down the social ladder. Even in Norway gender equality is realtively new, and a lot of the old prejudices stilll lives. You bare your shame, you dont talk about it. This is rules they still live by in many areas of Norway and in many  areas of many other countries. The worst part is that many women paricipate in this. Women hold themselves down by using old prejudises. But in now way does this releave the man.

Perhaps its a bit unusual for a man to write about this. Perhaps I should write about cars or football instead. I willl probably be stimatized by some for writing this, It doesnt matter. I am man enough to bare this. Most men should also be. Its time to get up and talk for all those that doesn´t dare. Those who let the shame and disgust for themselfes silence them. They who let the blame and shame destroy the person they were meant to be.

Well, this isnt now, is it? We live in the year 2010 and is an educated people?  The western women is stronge and independant? Between seven and 14 percent of the rapes in Norway is reported. I doubt that the numbers in other countries is much higher dependant on the population figures. That means that shame and guilt never grows out of fashion.

http://kidshealth.org/teen/safety/safebasics/rape_what_to_do.html

http://www.mencanstoprape.org/

The fear of lustful women

July 10, 2010

Nothing seems so scary to men as women. Especially womens sexuality. Maybe thats why their so busy surpressing bot women and their sexuality?

In Iran theres a mother that awaits her execution. She was suppose to be killed by stoning but after internationl protests is the planned stoning probably stopped. Instead Sakined Ashtani might be hanged.The woman confessed to have been cheating on her husband. Did I mention they Whipped her with 99 strokes first? Ashtiani is as we all know not the only woman in the world suffering because of sexual reasons.  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/07/09/sakineh-ashtiani-irans-me_n_641658.html

Women have always been victims of their own sexuality. Directly, though rape or by beiing punished for ahvein sex or behaved in a sexual way. In some parts of the world they even cut the woman to make her have less lust for sex. By other words: They are being punished for something they might do in the future. Some women even gets killed in honor, because they speaked to the wrong guy.

In some muslim countries women has to cover themselves. Some places totally, to not awake lust in men. Women is trapped in restrictions in their relation to men and how they might behve themselsves. These are societies that ofd many reasons needs to control their women.

«The need for sex is a part of mens nature. Both men and women have the same lust»This is the words of Marcus Antonius (83 BC – 30 BC). The roman general and consul was aperantely not afraid of women. He is known to have had many. One of them was Cleopatra, one of the most powerful women in history. Apparantely both Antonius and Ceasar wasnt scared by a strong womans sexuality, many seems to be.

The first emperor og the roman empire, Augustus is said to have punished both his daughter Julia and his gradndaughter for being promiscius. He himself was hardly a good example. He lived a very full sexual life with a lot og lovers. Helped by his wife Livia.

Maria Magdalena was one of Jesus companions. She followed hun on his journeys the sam way his diciples followed him. Until 1969 maria had a shady reputation thought to be identical to the prostitute from Lukas 7, 37. This was an opinion pope Gregro the 1. (540-604) fronted very strongly. The reason for that was to weaken Marias position in the church, because she was a woman and the first one to se that Jesus grave was empty. She is the first person that has told other of Jesus´ ressurection, and therefore the first one to to the task of a christian priests. It should pass many centuries before the next woman did that. In the catholic world they still dont.

Maria was punished and weakened by the church. For something she never had done. But it was as always a sexual matter.

Infedility or promiscuis behavoir have always been less acceptable for women than it is for men. The less sexuall a woman behaves the more honorable and decent a woman is thougth to be. In some periods as the Victorian for example the ideal was almost anti-sexual. So that is not just a muslim thing. The bad words like «Cheep» «Slut» and «Whore» is almost with no exeptions used to describe women. Although I can easily name a few men that have earned all the words of the above. Mr. Antonius beeing one of them. The words and the use of it is an expression of the desire to have controll and punish a certain beahvior amongst women and to control their sexuality.

I Norway where I come from whe have no sanctions against female sexuality. Even behavior that is punishable in othber coountries. Adultery is not a crim, although still considers as imorral behavior but many.

But some countries, do sanction. The punish, puts them in oprison, beats them and kill them.Even victims of rape gets punished in countries like Somalia. Adultery and other «imoral» sexual behavior is regarded as harsh as murder. According to the Holy Quran men and women is created as equals. Both of them born from the same soul. « Any man that has a daughter that doesnt bury her alive, and does not offend her or treat his son better than his daughter, God will enter paradise». This qoute is suppose to be said by Muhammed himself. His wife Aisha was an active politician and teacher. The surppression og women with the Quaran as ann alibi is at its best doubtful. So where did it all go worng?

As I said earlier, women have always been held down. There have been many excuses to do that. Tghe msot popular is religious excuses. I have to ask both my self and my fellow masculine brothers: Why did God create smart, strong women if they only were to be surpressed?

I have discussed the surpression of women in an earlier blogpost. https://finnhjalmar.wordpress.com/2010/07/05/the-weaker-sex/ . Here I mean that stoning is the most extreme og ways to surpress women. The sexuality of women have always been held down by almost all people. Traditons or cultures. The surpression is more or less global and an expression for the mans power over women. A power that is still very important for men to contain.

Why is this important? Why is it sp important to hide the female part of the creation? Why is it so important for some cultures to cut up womens groin to destroy their sexul pleasure? A pleasure Gid has given them. Could it be that men is afraid for the female sexuality? Is it mens insecurity that creates this? Are these men realy that yellow?

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2010/jul/09/iran-blackout-over-stoning-sentence-woman

http://www.zamaaneh.com/enzam/2010/07/iran-sakineh-ashtiani-wil.html

A life´s value

July 6, 2010

What is a life worth? Not perticular much in some places.

A life for a life, an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth. The history of mankind is easily listed in this qoute from the bible. (Exodus 21:22-25). Human beeings have killed, still kills and will kill eachother as long as there is human beeings on the planet.

Animal also kills. But they are much more simpler than us. They kill either in selfdefense or to get food. We humans are intelligent an sofisticated, so we kill for a large number of reasons. Money, lust, insanity, sex, revenge, hate, love, defense or as punishment.

The death penalty is very old and have existed in almost every society. Also in my country, the peacefull country in the far north called Norway. In 1979 vi abolished the military death penalty. It is only for the last 31 years or state have been totally unaible to kill its own citizens. The last execution took place august 28. 1948 as a part of trails of traitors after the 2. World War. The civil death penalty were abolished in 1902. Not that long ago either.

I have written an entry on the death penalty earlier. And I am very much against it. https://finnhjalmar.wordpress.com/2010/07/05/when-the-state-acts-like-god/ . It is deeply wrong that a state kills in time of peace. Regardless if it is Texas or China that executes it is pervers and not acceptable. If it is christians or muslims it is just as wrong. The catholic church actually accept the use of death penalty. That is absurd and reprehensible of the largest christian curch.

Theres a father in Iran that just got a letter. That letter says that his son is to be executed within the next 48 hours. To make money for his family the boy accepted the guilt of killing a man when he was only 15 years old. Mohammad Reza Haddadi never killed that man. The killers tild him that he wasnt going to be executed because he was only a child when he confessed. If the was wrong or just fooled the boy is hard to answer. The iranian government want to kill him anyway. A land with a full membership of the UN, and has signed the convention regarding chilkdrens rights. A convention thats forbidds the execution of children below 18 years of age. Mohammad Reza Haddadi is not alone. There are a lot of children on the death rows in Iran. http://www.care2.com/c2c/share/detail/1191425

The regime has its reasons to do so. Some says it is religion. Some say it is law, and some blame the culture. The law of Sharia is an expression often used in this debate. Fact is that most islamic countries doesnt use the Sharia.

February 14. 1989 a fatwa was issued by the leader of Iran Ayatollah Ruhollah Khomeini on the Radio Teheran. This «fatwa» demanded that the author Salman Rushdie had to be executed after wrtiting the book «Satanic Verses» . The book was regarded to be blasphemic againt Islam. The only country that has signed the fatwa is Iran. No other muslim country has done so. In fact, mnost of the muslims is against the fatwa.

The mass executions taking place in Iran is really about two things. Power and terror. By the use of power the government scare their citizens. But they do not only scare them . They scare us too. For those of us that lives in western societies without the death penalty hanging over ur heads gets afraid. Very afraid. We are afraid of the culture, the people and their religion. And its not the muslim peoples fault. Its the extremists fault, and regimes like that in Iran.

The iranian government claims that thay kills their own in Gods name. They claim to be following Gods laws when they kill. What they really do is to misuse the name of God and use it as an excuse to abuse power. That is a common poltical tradition in almost every society that has existed on the planet.

Back to the death row where we find Mohammad Reza Haddadi. The government wants to execute him bbecause they want to scare their people. A young man that has to give up his life for something he hasnt even done. It so easy for the state to kill him. As easy as it has been for many centuries. A human life is not woth much in that country. http://persian2english.com/?p=12464

How much longer shall we sit on ur sivilized behinds and watch countries like Chine and Iran to spit on basic human rights? How much longer do we have to accept that some countries shows such horrid contemt for life? No one honors God by killing. To kill is to spit on his creatit/node/35on and I could never imagin that God think that is okay.

http://iran.elple.ne

http://www.amnesty.org/en/news-and-updates/iran-must-stop-imminent-execution-juvenile-offender-20091208

http://scenews.blog.com/2009/07/11/urgent-mohammad-reza-haddadi-at-risk-of-imminent-execution/